The Wachowskis Are Now Sisters

LillyWachowskiLilly Wachowski, part of the filmmaking duo known as The Wachowskis has made an announcement that she is transgender. Lana Wachowski , Lilly’s sister, previously announced she was transgender several years ago.

Wachowski decided to make a public statement after being threatened of outing by other media. Bravo Lilly for standing up for who you are.

We are all about diversity here at TG Geeks, whether it be Men, Women, Minorities, or Transgender people making films, music, TV, or any other creative activity. We support diversity in all its’ forms. While we understand the struggle of coming out as gay, we don’t pretend to understand what it must be like to come out as transgender. Fortunately, there are people and organizations that can help us in our understanding. Later on in this article we have listed some of those organizations, should you choose to increase your understanding.

The Two Gay Geeks received this statement from Brendan Mahoney, a Community Leader in Phoenix and Chair, City of Phoenix Human Relations Commission:

Coming out as LGBT always has been both a personal and a political act — a personal act to live with integrity and a political act to change the hearts and minds of people.  Congratulations to Lilly Wachowski for her integrity and willingness to take risk to change the world for herself, for us, and for generations to come.


Below we have quoted a portion of Lilly’s letter to the Windy City Times:


Being transgender is not easy. We live in a majority-enforced gender binary world. This means when you’re transgender you have to face the hard reality of living the rest of your life in a world that is openly hostile to you.

I am one of the lucky ones. Having the support of my family and the means to afford doctors and therapists has given me the chance to actually survive this process. Transgender people without support, means and privilege do not have this luxury. And many do not survive. In 2015, the transgender murder rate hit an all-time high in this country. A horrifying disproportionate number of the victims were trans women of color. These are only the recorded homicides so, since trans people do not all fit in the tidy gender binary statistics of murder rates, it means the actual numbers are higher.

And though we have come a long way since Silence of the Lambs, we continue to be demonized and vilified in the media where attack ads portray us as potential predators to keep us from even using the goddamn bathroom. The so-called bathroom bills that are popping up all over this country do not keep children safe, they force trans people into using bathrooms where they can be beaten and or murdered. We are not predators, we are prey.

So yeah, I’m transgender.

And yeah, I’ve transitioned.

I’m out to my friends and family. Most people at work know too. Everyone is cool with it. Yes, thanks to my fabulous sister they’ve done it before, but also because they’re fantastic people. Without the love and support of my wife and friends and family I would not be where I am today.

But these words, “transgender” and “transitioned” are hard for me because they both have lost their complexity in their assimilation into the mainstream. There is a lack of nuance of time and space. To be transgender is something largely understood as existing within the dogmatic terminus of male or female. And to “transition” imparts a sense of immediacy, a before and after from one terminus to another. But the reality, my reality is that I’ve been transitioning and will continue to transition all of my life, through the infinite that exists between male and female as it does in the infinite between the binary of zero and one. We need to elevate the dialogue beyond the simplicity of binary. Binary is a false idol.

Now, gender theory and queer theory hurt my tiny brain. The combinations of words, like freeform jazz, clang disjointed and discordant in my ears. I long for understanding of queer and gender theory but it’s a struggle as is the struggle for understanding of my own identity. I have a quote in my office though by José Muñoz given to me by a good friend. I stare at it in contemplation sometimes trying to decipher its meaning but the last sentence resonates:

“Queerness is essentially about the rejection of a here and now and an insistence on potentiality for another world.”

So I will continue to be an optimist adding my shoulder to the Sisyphean struggle of progress and in my very being, be an example of the potentiality of another world.

Lilly Wachowski


To see the full article and letter from Lilly, click Windy City Times


Here is a short list of Transgender resources:

GLAAD has a page with a number of resources here

Transgender resources in Arizona One-N-Ten and U of A

Human Rights Campaign

And here is an article on Huffington Post about transgender awareness in the workplace.


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